Just What Is Allowed ?

Dear Friend:

In regard to our earlier conversation, I have some personal questions I believe you need to answer. Firstly, just what is allowed, and what is going over the line?

I think the rules are convoluted as we are spending time together. Even though we are not having any kind of physical relationship, I suspect you are worried about what others may think.

I will be totally honest with you, as I am in all of my dealings with others. I have no intention of leading you on. I am not looking for an affair, as I am married, and completely monogamous.

To quell your wondering, I have been married nearly 24 years, and this is my first marriage, as I didn’t decide to take this step until I was in my mid thirties.

I allow my wife to have friends, but that is such a poor way to say that, as allow is not a proper attitude at all. I encourage her to have friends. Male, female, it matters not.

To control someone, so they might not have friends or be able to socialize, is akin to slavery in my book.

If a person is committed to another, there should be no jealousies, or fear of contacts their significant other may have. Trust is a two way street, and if I weren’t able to trust my spouse, how could I expect her to trust me?

Flirtations are just banter, and a way to expose others to a more private side of oneself. They are a way to break the ice, so strangers might feel the person they are talking to is actually human.

Flirting allows people to feel less formal and helps to show a part of oneself, rarely shown. That in turn allows others to feel more comfortable, whereby being more honest about who they really are.

Dear Friend, could we really have any kind of friendship, where we would have to be careful of what we say, or how we word it?

Liking someone is not groping, or ravaging them, it is merely liking them, and no one can fault someone for their likes.

Relationships are just as difficult as a job, and friendships are the same. You work at a friendship, to learn of another, their hopes, desires, their wants and needs, as well as their fears and hatreds.

In my lifetime, I have had enough relationships to understand, couples must have both friends in common, and friends apart. As a married man I know there are things I can’t say to my wife, as that only causes problems.

The same goes for her. To only have the same friends in common, would not allow one to get the gripes off of their chests, as conversations often get repeated and that in turn leads to arguments or fighting.

Dear Friend, we can only be honest and true to those we wish to have in our lives, and my desires of our friendship is to be true to that end.

If in time we are close, and we might find ourselves at a place where we might feel more strongly toward each other, then we should consider what is best for our friendship.

Until then, rest assured I am not out to lead you on, nor to break your heart, and I also know you too feel the same.

Until next time, your Friend….
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Can You Read This Now? A Rant Rebuttal

Recently I read a post from a fellow blogger, that gave 25 reasons why he wouldn’t read some blogs. There were too many problems with a number of sites, the least of which was a black site with white writing. That was probably meant for me, as my site was that way for a long time.

Mostly it was a bitch session, but I took it to heart and thought maybe my readers were tired of straining their eyes at my place. So I rolled out the white walls, and totally ruined my widgetry. Now you can read what’s there but can’t find ” whatever you’re looking for “.

I understand if you are putting up a thousand word post, it works better for people to have it broken up into short paragraphs. Three or four sentences, maybe five if they are relatively short. That goes for all reading. You don’t want to lose someone among all those words in there, so I try to write short paragraphs.

What about this stupid font design I pulled up? Can you read me now? I am sure it won’t matter in the least, as the Word press editor will probably change this format, to something I wasn’t looking for. It always does that, you know? This font is not all that readable, but it is bold!

I never got comments remarking on the readability of the site before I changed the theme, and I suppose it’s easier for people to read when it’s black writing on a white background, but a lot of that is from our upbringing. If paper had been black when it was first manufactured, instead of tan, or gray ( papyrus, bamboo, birch bark, parchment ) people would be used to it. Then it would be normal to see white letters on a black surface.

Straying just a little, paper yellows with age and becomes brittle. Old books are falling apart due to their age. Fortunately we are in the digital age now, and digital information won’t rot, although some of the digital information is rotten!

Anyway, that fellow blogger was moaning about spelling, and I guess he had a point there, as a spell-checker could fix that. The rant about grammar was a little far reaching, when one considers many bloggers are not from America, Australia or England where English is the main written and spoken language. But then again, the Queens provinces write a different English than do us Americans.

I don’t believe translations were taken into account either, and many languages don’t translate nicely into other languages. I expect one day in the future, humanity will manage to speak and write in a universal language. Every few hundred years the contemporary languages change. Greek was the big thing for a while, and then Latin, as scholars learned the languages of the sciences.

Off topic again, I liked ” FIREFLY “, where in a future, humanity lives in another Solar System, and the language has fragmented into the two main powers of that time period. Chinese, and English. That was a great idea!

Colors, banner ads, and other distractions. That blogger said he wouldn’t read a blog if there were two many bright colors, or there were large banners, and ads all over the site. Maybe I’ll have to get some of those. I suspect he wouldn’t like the GIF’s out there either, although he didn’t really specify.

I think he mentioned the different colored texts for every other word, so look out, as he won’t read your blog either. That fellow blogger forgot to mention the sites where you need a magnifying glass to see the text. The Word press editor seems to defeat me on that score. I will write in large bold fonts only to hit publish and have the post come out in calibri 11, and spaced at 1.15, so I don’t know how to deal with that.

Wow, guess what? ( sorta off topic ) I just discovered the ” toolbar toggle ” and I’ll bet if I use that, I can get my words big enough, for you see them from another state! I am going to try that, in a few minutes if I decide this is worth the effort to post.

I think the rest of that rant was about boring, or revamped same old posts, he had seen everywhere. I guess not all that many people are very original. Everything is built up, from a lesser model, or rearranged from a model already out there. Very few ideas are truly original. If they were, the one’s with that original idea are now rich, and certainly not blogging.

I do have to admit, that fellow blogger did make a few points that even I can agree with. I won’t read a blog that spouts a bunch of racist crap, or uses profanity to the extreme, with every other word describing in the foulest manner their views or deeds, I won’t stick around to read hatred, or even just plain nasty ranting.

Sometimes you have to spice a post up a bit, by calling a spade a spade, but a person doesn’t have to get so carried away with it, they drive people away. Even nice people use profanity sometimes. There is a time and a place for that, but it’s another thing to just go on and on.

That blogger didn’t like the one sentence posts either. I guess when you go to all of that effort of pushing a button, you want to satisfy yourself, and recharge with a medium length, interesting post. Now we all have to figure out what is Interesting, and define medium length. I didn’t realize blogging could be full of so many challenges.

Oh yeah, we are not supposed to moan about all of our problems either. That blogger pointed out, we all have our problems, and we should just leave them at home. No body wants to read our dirty laundry out here on the web. Actually he stated we should just sign in to Facebook, if that was all we were going to post. I hate Facebook, so I guess I’ll just have to quit blogging.

We were also reminded to not post our tweets, as that was usually so much drivel, so now I don’t know what to do, where to go, or how to do it. I bet if I asked that blogger, he would tell me in no uncertain terms. I am glad I have friends like that here on the Internet, to guide me and insure my presence is noticed and appreciated.

I Have A CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD!

photo-creative blogger award

creative blogger award

Once again, someone had the audacity to nominate me for an award! As though I deserve it, and I am not so sure I want such honors. I don’t consider myself a Creative Blogger, as for the most part I have been posting others work.

I try to give some interesting posts, with valuable information. Or I try to put up something that will teach others things they probably didn’t realize they would like. Mostly I am a radical looking for an outlet to scream my many causes.

My interests are so varied, I never really know what to offer. What turns me on, usually doesn’t interest anyone else. I am still amazed there are over a hundred people following my site. I was never this interesting in the actual world. I guess the digital world is different.

I am supposed to present everyone with 5 random facts about me, and here I am at a loss. I have been disclosing who I am, the real me, through long-winded stories. I have been trying to categorize them as personal / worms…

That’s another can of worms. I’ve said so much, and yet so little about who I really am, and I can’t even think of 5 random facts.

Here are the rules:

1. Contact all of your nominees and notify them of their award. You can pick as many blogs as you like, but five is the minimum.
CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD
2. Give a shout-out to the blogger that nominated you and post a link to their website.
https://butchcountry67.wordpress.com/2015/03/22/hey-now-i-just-received-another-blog-award/
Butchcountry67, you know payback is a bitch, and I know an awful lot about you now, thanks to your randoms, so remember to look over your shoulder whenever you go out. I am not bothered by going under houses, or crawling around in tight spaces, as I’ve had to do that for 30 years working all phases of construction. And I am not bothered by spiders and snakes.

Just kidding! Thanks Butch, for giving me one more opportunity to show off all my skills at being amusing and Creative! I love ya.

3. Share five random facts about yourself.

4. Display the Creative Blogger Award image above your post.

5. Pass along these rules to the nominees.

So hey you nominees, you are the lucky picks for today and I hope you are excited! You all have interesting blogs and I know you are deserving of the honor of putting a CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD on your site. Sorry if this makes more work for you, with all of the other stuff have to deal with in your lives, but hey, you are creative and you will find a way!

Lynn k Scott
http://pinkherald.wordpress.com

andreathompson2
http://theaccidentaltexangal.wordpress.com

Victoria Iskak
http://victoriaiskak.wordpress.com

Sabrina
http://sabrinaanblog.wordpress.com

sunnysleevez
http://sunnysleevez.wordpress.com

Carole Migalka
http://carolemigalka.wordpress.com

annepm2015
http://annermurray.wordpress.com

Opher
http://opherworld.wordpress.com
5 Randoms…..
1) I am not a food person. I don’t care if I eat or not. I only eat because I have to, and if I could get nourishment from the air I would. Why you ask? I would think that was fairly obvious, but if you insist I will tell you. I think ” having to crap is disgusting “. Yes everyone has to, so we are all in the same boat!

2 ) I don’t drive other people’s cars. I am an excellent driver, with only one accident, when I was 16 years old, and that was someone else passing me. The classic example… The sun was close to setting behind me, while I was making a left turn off of a highway. My turn signal was on, and a VW came whipping past me, while I was already turning. Their rear bumper hooked my front bumper, and it pulled the tail end off of the VW. The judge said that was impossible, and the other driver was a pretty woman ( even dressed my best, I am not pretty ), so I took a fall for that. I don’t drive other’s cars because Murphy always is looking for an excuse to visit me!

3 ) I don’t borrow. Not a thing. Every time I borrow something, it turns into some nightmare or other. The lender suddenly needs it back, or are so worried their junk will get stolen, or some such. Then there is the problem, the thing I would borrow is a piece of shit, and it will break, and I have to replace it! If I could afford to buy something, I would, but since I can’t afford to buy something, I usually go without.

4 ) I have a tendency to trust people, even though I’ve been around a long time, and know too many people aren’t to be trusted. I want to believe humanity is generally good, and I don’t want to just assume everybody is really only looking out for themselves, and don’t care about me, even though I keep being proven wrong on that score.

5 ) I was single until I was 35 years old! I decided not to marry my childhood sweety. I had to prove to myself I could take care of me, before I took on the responsibilities of having a family. On May 5th 2015, I will be celebrating my 25th anniversary! My wife let me know a long time ago, this would be a permanent arrangement, as I was too hard to train!

So that was my five randoms, and I hope it made everyone’s day.

 

The WordPress Mystery

The WordPress Mystery
To follow or un-follow, that is the question
Whether it is an action, done by you
Or do we suffer the slings and arrows of technological glitches?
I have been following the latest thread on WordPress support, regarding the issue of ” lost ” followers. WordPress does not cap how many followers we have. They also say we can only follow so many blogs, and if we try to follow more, ” we are speed liking, or speed following ” and that, to WordPress is the same as spamming.

Bottom line: Those who speed follow multiple blogs in short periods of time are affecting spammer like behavior and the software has stopped them from their spammer-like game playing. Those who think those who follow thousands of blogs actually read the content in all those blogs would have to be light in the head. That said if all one does is publish re-blogs and post individual images of cats and/or other stuff that lacks substance are micro-bloggers who will be welcomed at Tumblr. I say that the game playing has been halted – Alleluia!

There is no cap on the number of followers who can follow any blog.
The software will prevent spammer-like behavior such as following many blogs in a short period of time from accomplishing their game playing goals.
I constantly check my stats to see not only who is following me, but who I am currently following. I re-follow some of the blogs that have been cut from my list, only to have it happen again immediately. WordPress says they are looking into these things, but points out, ” this isn’t a platform for self promotion, it is a platform for fun “.

Like Butchcountry67, Aopinionatedman and others, I read over one hundred blogs daily, and WordPress says that’s impossible and we must be daft or light headed to do so. I am not blogging so I can make money, I am doing this to create friendship and a social network to further my goals. Those goals are to be more socially connected to the world.

I read quickly, and have pretty good comprehension, meaning I read fast and remember what I read. If WordPress is talking about following thousands of blogs, so they can be re-blogged I can understand the concerns, but not for a hundred or so. I am almost at my limit as far as how much reading I can do, and still keep up with my community.

1. How are you subscribing? (via the Reader, or the admin bar, or a follow button) 2. Do you do the same thing every time? 3. How do you discover that you’ve been unsubscribed? 4. Do you have the site or WordPress.com in general open in multiple tabs? 5. What type of device do you read on? And what type of device are you following on?

I personally hit the ” like ” button, to show I was there, and if I want to comment, I do so. When it asks ” do you want to follow this blog? “, if I do I click that text, and click the follow on the admin bar. When I get the subscribe notification, I go to the ” blogs I follow ” place in the reader and verify the follow.

I rarely have more than two tabs open in WordPress at any given time. I also renew the pages I do have opened so the material is fresh, and not static. I only use my old laptop for all of my computer related activities. I know others are having these same troubles, so if this is a problem for you, contact WordPress at: Our support options are found here https://en.support.wordpress.com/help-support-options/
I wish everyone good luck figuring out what the mystery is.

Jarte – Better Than Word pad

http://www.jarte.com/store.html
Jarte – Better Than Word pad
I don’t know how everyone else is writing their posts, I don’t get to sit behind them and see what program they’re using. I didn’t like Office, and Open Office, the free program was just as much a pain, as the Microsoft program was. I never liked notepad, as it always wrapped the sentences. So for years I have used Word pad, which is a great program, except…..

Word pad has great features, and is a well written program, utilizing an engine that functions extremely well. It is versatile and always reminds me when I need to save my work. My only complaint with Word pad is it didn’t come with a spell- check feature, and that will be it’s downfall!

When I want a document for purposes other than a post for this site, I would have to pretend I was creating a new post, so I could edit the document, as this site has a spell-check function, and lets me know when the wording is not right. Word pad doesn’t have those features. Apparently Word pad doesn’t have many features other document editing programs have, so I have changed to a new program!
http://www.jarte.com/?so=j&ed=s&ve=53

Jarte \jär · ‘tay\ noun (est. 2001) 1. A free word processor based on the Microsoft Word Pad word processing engine built into Windows. 2. A fast starting, easy to use word processor that expands well beyond the Word Pad feature set. 3. A small, portable, touch enabled word processor whose documents are fully compatible with Word and Word Pad.

“It’s one of life’s little ironies that in a country with free speech, a program called Word costs over a hundred dollars. Fortunately, we also have Carolina Road Software and their free-of-charge word processor, Jarte.”
—PC World magazine

The Jarte word processor relieves that problem by including only the features likely to be needed by real people. Jarte is designed for students, writers, small business people, and home users. But what really makes Jarte special is the unique way it makes the features that are included easily accessible.

You expect a word processor to be able to handle Word documents, font and paragraph formatting, spell checking, print preview, and more. While Jarte performs all the standard functions well, the most important aspect of Jarte is the numerous small details that make it an efficient and enjoyable tool for creating documents. Small details like:

photo--Jarte Plus Store

-Jarte Plus Store

Tabbed document windows for easy access to your open documents
Larger buttons for the most commonly used functions
Instant dictionary and thesaurus word lookup (integrates with free WordWeb)
Spell check and text search tools that do not park themselves on top of the text you are trying to edit
Single click bookmarking that make bookmarks both useful and usable
Instant access to the documents and folders you designate as your favorites
Instant access to the fonts you designate as your favorites
Use of the mouse scroll wheel button to copy and paste text
It is Jarte’s thoughtful details that will leave you wondering how you lived with that cumbersome office word processor for so long.

Take it With You!

Jarte may be the best word processor available for mobile PCs. Jarte takes up very little space on your SSD or hard drive, it runs quickly and efficiently, and Jarte’s compact display is perfect for small screen PCs. Jarte supports touch screen gestures, such as finger swipe scrolling and pinch zoom, for use on tablet PCs such as Microsoft’s Surface Pro. Jarte is an ideal word processor for mobile PCs!

Jarte may also be the best portable word processor available. Jarte can easily be run directly from a USB flash drive (or even a DropBox folder), so your word processor is always ready for you no matter what PC you’re using, providing the ultimate experience in portable word processing.

Stable WordPad Editing Engine

At the heart of Jarte sits the same word processing engine used by Windows’ WordPad. The difference is that Jarte builds far more capability around the WordPad editing engine than the WordPad program itself does. The significance of this fact is that Jarte users are secure in the knowledge that Jarte is making use of the same reliable, time tested editing engine used by millions of other Windows users all over the world. If you have tried other alternative word processors and found them to be unstable that may be in part due to their use of unreliable, home grown editing engines.

Microsoft is continually upgrading the WordPad editing engine, although you would never know it by examining WordPad. The WordPad program itself has not changed since it was first introduced. Jarte, on the other hand, continues to evolve and take advantage of useful features as Microsoft adds them to the WordPad editing engine.

Jarte is a Free Word Processor? What’s the Catch?

Yes, Jarte is completely free. There are no ads, no trial period, no nag screens, and no crippling of essential features. We do sell a separate edition of Jarte called Jarte Plus for those who want more. Many of Jarte’s regular users have been more than willing to pay the small price for the extra bells and whistles provided by Jarte Plus.

Whether or not you choose to upgrade to Jarte Plus, we hope you will go forth and free other weary souls from their corporate office word processors by introducing them to Jarte —the word processor for the rest of us.3/20/2015

Dear WordPress Support

I don’t know what exactly is going on with OM’s blog or the troubles he’s having, but I had thought I was following people, and they were following me as well, only to find I had to re-follow. I will send Jason an email and see what is going on. I recommend everyone re-blog this as a protest, or at least to make a point , and act as a statement! I know that may seem like biting the hand that feeds us, but sometimes speaking up is more important, than the consequences they bring.

The Rise of YouTube Plagiarism Bots

This is almost Plagiarism, as I didn’t change any part of it.  I know at some point I will get in trouble over some of my posts.  I found what I was looking for.   Everything on my site is under a Creative Commons license that allows reuse with attribution.

bit.ly/1wE6w2N .

So I used part of this post to help inform you all.  Again, I wrote none of the post you’re about to read, and you must follow the link to finish it.

The Rise of YouTube Plagiarism Bots

By Jonathan Bailey on Mar 17, 2015 03:47 pm

YouTube Logo

For almost as long as there’s been a YouTube, there’s been spam on it.

Traditionally this spam has taken the format of garbage accounts uploading misleading videos, often with fake thumbnails, for the purpose of promoting products, services or some cause.

But while that type of spam still certainly exists on YouTube, it’s now being joined by a new kind of spam, automated videos that plagiarize content from blogs, news sites and other text sources.

For the spammer, this is a very easy way to flood YouTube with a large number of low-quality topical videos. The result for content creators, especially those who produce text or image content, is that your hard work is being used to fuel spam videoblogs and those spammers will have an upper hand in search results because of the way Google shows preference to YouTube in its algorithm.

This raises two difficult questions: What can YouTube do to battle this problem? And what can creators do to protect their work?

Understanding YouTube’s Plagiarism Bots

I would like to thank Jonathan Bailey for allowing me to use some of his material for the preceding post.  You can find more information at his site plagiarismtoday.com/stopping-inter…

 

Deseret News – Alissa Sizemore – A Champion

http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865623363/Utah-girl-dances-solo-9-months-after-losing-foot-in-accident.html?pg=all
Watch the video at this link, and be amazed at the resilience of a young girl, dealing with a life altering injury. You don’t see disgust over the accident from her. You see a beautiful young lady with promise, and an I CAN DO ANYTHING ATTITUDE.

photo-Utah girl dances solo 9 months after losing foot in accident _ Deseret News

Utah girl dances solo 9 months after losing foot in accident _ Deseret News

Alissa Sizemore was 7 years old when she ran into the path of a UPS truck in May 2014. Her right foot was crushed under one of the delivery truck’s tires and had to be amputated. On Saturday, Alissa danced her first solo in competition.

Alissa Sizemore, right, practices for a performance during ballet class Monday, March 2, 2015, at Powerhouse Dance Studio in Vernal. Alissa, 8, had to have her right leg amputated below the knee in May 2014 after her foot was pinned under a UPS truck.

Before being fitted with a prosthetic, Alissa heard the Colbie Caillat ballad “Try.” The song, with lyrics that emphasize finding beauty in oneself despite physical imperfections, resonated with Alissa.

“It’s a song that I found when my mom and dad first saw me dancing without my leg,” said Alissa, who decided to dance her first solo at Powerhouse Dance Studio’s recital this past weekend.

“I went to the dance teachers and I said, ‘I want (the solo routine) to be her,'” Heather Sizemore said. “Show her — with or without the leg — she can still dance. They took my idea, the concept, and did a beautiful choreography for her.”

So there Alissa stood Saturday, alone on the floor in front of a gym filled with friends and family who didn’t know what they were about to see.

“It just seemed like it would it would be really nice to show me without my leg,” Alissa said, describing the point in her routine where she removed her prosthesis and danced without it during the second half of the song.
http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865623363/Utah-girl-dances-solo-9-months-after-losing-foot-in-accident.html?pg=all

Joke – The Daily Post-Challenge

An old man and woman were working on landscape clean-up, in a noisy industrial area. Over time they had learned to communicate with gestures. When the man wanted to know where something was, he would gesture with a shrug, and show the appropriate action.

Shrug, digging action = where’s the shovel? She would respond with the digging action and point at a nearby shed. this was working pretty well and they were able to work far from each other, always able to communicate what they needed to.

At one point the man needed the wheelbarrow, and shrugged to the woman, lifting his arms out in front of him, making forward and backward motions.

The woman, quite far from him caught the question and responded, by pointing to her eye, then she grabbed her left breast, followed by pointing at her butt, and then pointed at her crotch.

The man was very confused by this, as she wasn’t usually so sexually explicit, especially on the job. So he made his gestures again, indicating where’s the wheelbarrow?

The woman once again, pointed at her eye, grabbed her left breast, pointed at her butt, and then at her crotch.

The man shrugged, thinking she probably wanted sex or something, and walked over to the old woman to find out what she meant by the cryptic response to, the location of the wheelbarrow.

The woman was quite exasperated by this time, as the man usually figured out what she had indicated.

So in plain English, he asked ” where is the wheelbarrow? ”
Using the same gestures, and speaking at the same time, she replied. ” I said, I, pointing at her eye, left it, grabbing her left breast, behind, pointing at her butt, the bush, pointing at her crotch!

The Hat – An Australian Bush & City hat.

photo--australian bush and city hats - Google Search

Australian bush and city hats – Google Search

I used to wear a Navy watch cap, navy blue of course, or black. As a longhair, from the San Francisco bay area, growing up in the good old days, I wore a watch cap. Bandanas were too much like a poster or billboard, pointing me out in a crowd. The watch cap didn’t get blown off of my head whenever the wind blew, and it kept my long locks from blowing into my face.

That was probably the main reason for me, to wear a hat. I didn’t like my hair getting in my face. Right off the bat, you are saying to yourself, ” just cut your damn hair then “. I have cut my hair 3 times in 45 years, and I don’t plan on doing that any time soon. If you were as ugly as I, you would do whatever it took to look better.

” Well, why do you keep your hair long if it drives you nuts? ” you ask. Because it’s the best feature I have. I inherited my mother’s beautiful thick, wavy hair, and without it my ears stick out to the sides, similar to Dumbo the elephant. In a heavy wind I could probably fly without my hair keeping them ears under control.

So to keep a long story long, I wore a Navy watch cap for something like 40 years. My trademark so to speak. The only problem with that watch cap was, it seemed to draw attention to me in a negative way. Everywhere I went, cops would single me out, even when I was being perfectly legal.

It was me, I know. If a cop had someone pulled over and I drove past, he would let the other people go, and take off after me. Some of that was because I tended to drive beater cars. I could keep junk running for quite a while, and a hundred-dollar car was lots cheaper than a thousand dollar car. The old cars were easier to work on too.

So now you’re asking what all that has to do with a hat. I’ll tell you. In 2007, some friends came by my place. My place wasn’t where you could just be driving by, so you decide to stop. I lived 3 miles out a logging road, and you had to be going there to get there.

One of those friends was sporting a brand new Australian Bush & City hat. He was really proud of it, and I’m sure it cost him $50 or $60. I’m sure he couldn’t really afford to spend that kind of money for a hat, but he did. So my friends visited for a few hours, and when they decided to go, the hat was left behind.

I didn’t notice for weeks, the brand new hat sitting on top of the piano. The piano was a clutter spot, for all kinds of junk. A couple of months went by, and the hat was still there gathering dust. I thought about bringing it to Fred, being his and all, but never managed to remember it. I did tell him it was there.

Fred and his wife came by again about 4 months later, and he did grab the hat. He set it on the back of the couch, and we visited for a while. After dinner they decided to get home, before it got too dark to navigate the logging road. The hat was still sitting on the back of the couch! He forgot it again….

I left it there for a year, always forgetting to bring it to him, and he never came back to get it. In 2008 the brand new Australian Bush & City hat was still there, so I tried it on. It fit like it was meant to be worn by me, so I started to wear it. I took it off when I went by his place, so it wouldn’t be obvious, I was now wearing his hat.

I forgot to take it off the last few times I visited, and no one ever said anything about it, so I figured it was mine now. Since that time, 7 1/2 years ago, I’ve only been pulled over by the police 3 times, and never harassed at all. Not about driving junk, nor about looking creepy, or out-of-place, or anything at all.

I put that hat on now, whenever I leave the house. When I see a cop while driving down the road, they still look me over with scrutiny, but they never pull me over anymore. All they see is a cowboy, or rancher. Not a hippy with long hair, and an ugly rig. All they see is the hat!