Just What Is Allowed ?

Dear Friend:

In regard to our earlier conversation, I have some personal questions I believe you need to answer. Firstly, just what is allowed, and what is going over the line?

I think the rules are convoluted as we are spending time together. Even though we are not having any kind of physical relationship, I suspect you are worried about what others may think.

I will be totally honest with you, as I am in all of my dealings with others. I have no intention of leading you on. I am not looking for an affair, as I am married, and completely monogamous.

To quell your wondering, I have been married nearly 24 years, and this is my first marriage, as I didn’t decide to take this step until I was in my mid thirties.

I allow my wife to have friends, but that is such a poor way to say that, as allow is not a proper attitude at all. I encourage her to have friends. Male, female, it matters not.

To control someone, so they might not have friends or be able to socialize, is akin to slavery in my book.

If a person is committed to another, there should be no jealousies, or fear of contacts their significant other may have. Trust is a two way street, and if I weren’t able to trust my spouse, how could I expect her to trust me?

Flirtations are just banter, and a way to expose others to a more private side of oneself. They are a way to break the ice, so strangers might feel the person they are talking to is actually human.

Flirting allows people to feel less formal and helps to show a part of oneself, rarely shown. That in turn allows others to feel more comfortable, whereby being more honest about who they really are.

Dear Friend, could we really have any kind of friendship, where we would have to be careful of what we say, or how we word it?

Liking someone is not groping, or ravaging them, it is merely liking them, and no one can fault someone for their likes.

Relationships are just as difficult as a job, and friendships are the same. You work at a friendship, to learn of another, their hopes, desires, their wants and needs, as well as their fears and hatreds.

In my lifetime, I have had enough relationships to understand, couples must have both friends in common, and friends apart. As a married man I know there are things I can’t say to my wife, as that only causes problems.

The same goes for her. To only have the same friends in common, would not allow one to get the gripes off of their chests, as conversations often get repeated and that in turn leads to arguments or fighting.

Dear Friend, we can only be honest and true to those we wish to have in our lives, and my desires of our friendship is to be true to that end.

If in time we are close, and we might find ourselves at a place where we might feel more strongly toward each other, then we should consider what is best for our friendship.

Until then, rest assured I am not out to lead you on, nor to break your heart, and I also know you too feel the same.

Until next time, your Friend….
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Can You Read This Now? A Rant Rebuttal

Recently I read a post from a fellow blogger, that gave 25 reasons why he wouldn’t read some blogs. There were too many problems with a number of sites, the least of which was a black site with white writing. That was probably meant for me, as my site was that way for a long time.

Mostly it was a bitch session, but I took it to heart and thought maybe my readers were tired of straining their eyes at my place. So I rolled out the white walls, and totally ruined my widgetry. Now you can read what’s there but can’t find ” whatever you’re looking for “.

I understand if you are putting up a thousand word post, it works better for people to have it broken up into short paragraphs. Three or four sentences, maybe five if they are relatively short. That goes for all reading. You don’t want to lose someone among all those words in there, so I try to write short paragraphs.

What about this stupid font design I pulled up? Can you read me now? I am sure it won’t matter in the least, as the Word press editor will probably change this format, to something I wasn’t looking for. It always does that, you know? This font is not all that readable, but it is bold!

I never got comments remarking on the readability of the site before I changed the theme, and I suppose it’s easier for people to read when it’s black writing on a white background, but a lot of that is from our upbringing. If paper had been black when it was first manufactured, instead of tan, or gray ( papyrus, bamboo, birch bark, parchment ) people would be used to it. Then it would be normal to see white letters on a black surface.

Straying just a little, paper yellows with age and becomes brittle. Old books are falling apart due to their age. Fortunately we are in the digital age now, and digital information won’t rot, although some of the digital information is rotten!

Anyway, that fellow blogger was moaning about spelling, and I guess he had a point there, as a spell-checker could fix that. The rant about grammar was a little far reaching, when one considers many bloggers are not from America, Australia or England where English is the main written and spoken language. But then again, the Queens provinces write a different English than do us Americans.

I don’t believe translations were taken into account either, and many languages don’t translate nicely into other languages. I expect one day in the future, humanity will manage to speak and write in a universal language. Every few hundred years the contemporary languages change. Greek was the big thing for a while, and then Latin, as scholars learned the languages of the sciences.

Off topic again, I liked ” FIREFLY “, where in a future, humanity lives in another Solar System, and the language has fragmented into the two main powers of that time period. Chinese, and English. That was a great idea!

Colors, banner ads, and other distractions. That blogger said he wouldn’t read a blog if there were two many bright colors, or there were large banners, and ads all over the site. Maybe I’ll have to get some of those. I suspect he wouldn’t like the GIF’s out there either, although he didn’t really specify.

I think he mentioned the different colored texts for every other word, so look out, as he won’t read your blog either. That fellow blogger forgot to mention the sites where you need a magnifying glass to see the text. The Word press editor seems to defeat me on that score. I will write in large bold fonts only to hit publish and have the post come out in calibri 11, and spaced at 1.15, so I don’t know how to deal with that.

Wow, guess what? ( sorta off topic ) I just discovered the ” toolbar toggle ” and I’ll bet if I use that, I can get my words big enough, for you see them from another state! I am going to try that, in a few minutes if I decide this is worth the effort to post.

I think the rest of that rant was about boring, or revamped same old posts, he had seen everywhere. I guess not all that many people are very original. Everything is built up, from a lesser model, or rearranged from a model already out there. Very few ideas are truly original. If they were, the one’s with that original idea are now rich, and certainly not blogging.

I do have to admit, that fellow blogger did make a few points that even I can agree with. I won’t read a blog that spouts a bunch of racist crap, or uses profanity to the extreme, with every other word describing in the foulest manner their views or deeds, I won’t stick around to read hatred, or even just plain nasty ranting.

Sometimes you have to spice a post up a bit, by calling a spade a spade, but a person doesn’t have to get so carried away with it, they drive people away. Even nice people use profanity sometimes. There is a time and a place for that, but it’s another thing to just go on and on.

That blogger didn’t like the one sentence posts either. I guess when you go to all of that effort of pushing a button, you want to satisfy yourself, and recharge with a medium length, interesting post. Now we all have to figure out what is Interesting, and define medium length. I didn’t realize blogging could be full of so many challenges.

Oh yeah, we are not supposed to moan about all of our problems either. That blogger pointed out, we all have our problems, and we should just leave them at home. No body wants to read our dirty laundry out here on the web. Actually he stated we should just sign in to Facebook, if that was all we were going to post. I hate Facebook, so I guess I’ll just have to quit blogging.

We were also reminded to not post our tweets, as that was usually so much drivel, so now I don’t know what to do, where to go, or how to do it. I bet if I asked that blogger, he would tell me in no uncertain terms. I am glad I have friends like that here on the Internet, to guide me and insure my presence is noticed and appreciated.

I Have A CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD!

photo-creative blogger award

creative blogger award

Once again, someone had the audacity to nominate me for an award! As though I deserve it, and I am not so sure I want such honors. I don’t consider myself a Creative Blogger, as for the most part I have been posting others work.

I try to give some interesting posts, with valuable information. Or I try to put up something that will teach others things they probably didn’t realize they would like. Mostly I am a radical looking for an outlet to scream my many causes.

My interests are so varied, I never really know what to offer. What turns me on, usually doesn’t interest anyone else. I am still amazed there are over a hundred people following my site. I was never this interesting in the actual world. I guess the digital world is different.

I am supposed to present everyone with 5 random facts about me, and here I am at a loss. I have been disclosing who I am, the real me, through long-winded stories. I have been trying to categorize them as personal / worms…

That’s another can of worms. I’ve said so much, and yet so little about who I really am, and I can’t even think of 5 random facts.

Here are the rules:

1. Contact all of your nominees and notify them of their award. You can pick as many blogs as you like, but five is the minimum.
CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD
2. Give a shout-out to the blogger that nominated you and post a link to their website.
https://butchcountry67.wordpress.com/2015/03/22/hey-now-i-just-received-another-blog-award/
Butchcountry67, you know payback is a bitch, and I know an awful lot about you now, thanks to your randoms, so remember to look over your shoulder whenever you go out. I am not bothered by going under houses, or crawling around in tight spaces, as I’ve had to do that for 30 years working all phases of construction. And I am not bothered by spiders and snakes.

Just kidding! Thanks Butch, for giving me one more opportunity to show off all my skills at being amusing and Creative! I love ya.

3. Share five random facts about yourself.

4. Display the Creative Blogger Award image above your post.

5. Pass along these rules to the nominees.

So hey you nominees, you are the lucky picks for today and I hope you are excited! You all have interesting blogs and I know you are deserving of the honor of putting a CREATIVE BLOGGER AWARD on your site. Sorry if this makes more work for you, with all of the other stuff have to deal with in your lives, but hey, you are creative and you will find a way!

Lynn k Scott
http://pinkherald.wordpress.com

andreathompson2
http://theaccidentaltexangal.wordpress.com

Victoria Iskak
http://victoriaiskak.wordpress.com

Sabrina
http://sabrinaanblog.wordpress.com

sunnysleevez
http://sunnysleevez.wordpress.com

Carole Migalka
http://carolemigalka.wordpress.com

annepm2015
http://annermurray.wordpress.com

Opher
http://opherworld.wordpress.com
5 Randoms…..
1) I am not a food person. I don’t care if I eat or not. I only eat because I have to, and if I could get nourishment from the air I would. Why you ask? I would think that was fairly obvious, but if you insist I will tell you. I think ” having to crap is disgusting “. Yes everyone has to, so we are all in the same boat!

2 ) I don’t drive other people’s cars. I am an excellent driver, with only one accident, when I was 16 years old, and that was someone else passing me. The classic example… The sun was close to setting behind me, while I was making a left turn off of a highway. My turn signal was on, and a VW came whipping past me, while I was already turning. Their rear bumper hooked my front bumper, and it pulled the tail end off of the VW. The judge said that was impossible, and the other driver was a pretty woman ( even dressed my best, I am not pretty ), so I took a fall for that. I don’t drive other’s cars because Murphy always is looking for an excuse to visit me!

3 ) I don’t borrow. Not a thing. Every time I borrow something, it turns into some nightmare or other. The lender suddenly needs it back, or are so worried their junk will get stolen, or some such. Then there is the problem, the thing I would borrow is a piece of shit, and it will break, and I have to replace it! If I could afford to buy something, I would, but since I can’t afford to buy something, I usually go without.

4 ) I have a tendency to trust people, even though I’ve been around a long time, and know too many people aren’t to be trusted. I want to believe humanity is generally good, and I don’t want to just assume everybody is really only looking out for themselves, and don’t care about me, even though I keep being proven wrong on that score.

5 ) I was single until I was 35 years old! I decided not to marry my childhood sweety. I had to prove to myself I could take care of me, before I took on the responsibilities of having a family. On May 5th 2015, I will be celebrating my 25th anniversary! My wife let me know a long time ago, this would be a permanent arrangement, as I was too hard to train!

So that was my five randoms, and I hope it made everyone’s day.

 

The WordPress Mystery

The WordPress Mystery
To follow or un-follow, that is the question
Whether it is an action, done by you
Or do we suffer the slings and arrows of technological glitches?
I have been following the latest thread on WordPress support, regarding the issue of ” lost ” followers. WordPress does not cap how many followers we have. They also say we can only follow so many blogs, and if we try to follow more, ” we are speed liking, or speed following ” and that, to WordPress is the same as spamming.

Bottom line: Those who speed follow multiple blogs in short periods of time are affecting spammer like behavior and the software has stopped them from their spammer-like game playing. Those who think those who follow thousands of blogs actually read the content in all those blogs would have to be light in the head. That said if all one does is publish re-blogs and post individual images of cats and/or other stuff that lacks substance are micro-bloggers who will be welcomed at Tumblr. I say that the game playing has been halted – Alleluia!

There is no cap on the number of followers who can follow any blog.
The software will prevent spammer-like behavior such as following many blogs in a short period of time from accomplishing their game playing goals.
I constantly check my stats to see not only who is following me, but who I am currently following. I re-follow some of the blogs that have been cut from my list, only to have it happen again immediately. WordPress says they are looking into these things, but points out, ” this isn’t a platform for self promotion, it is a platform for fun “.

Like Butchcountry67, Aopinionatedman and others, I read over one hundred blogs daily, and WordPress says that’s impossible and we must be daft or light headed to do so. I am not blogging so I can make money, I am doing this to create friendship and a social network to further my goals. Those goals are to be more socially connected to the world.

I read quickly, and have pretty good comprehension, meaning I read fast and remember what I read. If WordPress is talking about following thousands of blogs, so they can be re-blogged I can understand the concerns, but not for a hundred or so. I am almost at my limit as far as how much reading I can do, and still keep up with my community.

1. How are you subscribing? (via the Reader, or the admin bar, or a follow button) 2. Do you do the same thing every time? 3. How do you discover that you’ve been unsubscribed? 4. Do you have the site or WordPress.com in general open in multiple tabs? 5. What type of device do you read on? And what type of device are you following on?

I personally hit the ” like ” button, to show I was there, and if I want to comment, I do so. When it asks ” do you want to follow this blog? “, if I do I click that text, and click the follow on the admin bar. When I get the subscribe notification, I go to the ” blogs I follow ” place in the reader and verify the follow.

I rarely have more than two tabs open in WordPress at any given time. I also renew the pages I do have opened so the material is fresh, and not static. I only use my old laptop for all of my computer related activities. I know others are having these same troubles, so if this is a problem for you, contact WordPress at: Our support options are found here https://en.support.wordpress.com/help-support-options/
I wish everyone good luck figuring out what the mystery is.

Dear WordPress Support

I don’t know what exactly is going on with OM’s blog or the troubles he’s having, but I had thought I was following people, and they were following me as well, only to find I had to re-follow. I will send Jason an email and see what is going on. I recommend everyone re-blog this as a protest, or at least to make a point , and act as a statement! I know that may seem like biting the hand that feeds us, but sometimes speaking up is more important, than the consequences they bring.

The Rise of YouTube Plagiarism Bots

This is almost Plagiarism, as I didn’t change any part of it.  I know at some point I will get in trouble over some of my posts.  I found what I was looking for.   Everything on my site is under a Creative Commons license that allows reuse with attribution.

bit.ly/1wE6w2N .

So I used part of this post to help inform you all.  Again, I wrote none of the post you’re about to read, and you must follow the link to finish it.

The Rise of YouTube Plagiarism Bots

By Jonathan Bailey on Mar 17, 2015 03:47 pm

YouTube Logo

For almost as long as there’s been a YouTube, there’s been spam on it.

Traditionally this spam has taken the format of garbage accounts uploading misleading videos, often with fake thumbnails, for the purpose of promoting products, services or some cause.

But while that type of spam still certainly exists on YouTube, it’s now being joined by a new kind of spam, automated videos that plagiarize content from blogs, news sites and other text sources.

For the spammer, this is a very easy way to flood YouTube with a large number of low-quality topical videos. The result for content creators, especially those who produce text or image content, is that your hard work is being used to fuel spam videoblogs and those spammers will have an upper hand in search results because of the way Google shows preference to YouTube in its algorithm.

This raises two difficult questions: What can YouTube do to battle this problem? And what can creators do to protect their work?

Understanding YouTube’s Plagiarism Bots

I would like to thank Jonathan Bailey for allowing me to use some of his material for the preceding post.  You can find more information at his site plagiarismtoday.com/stopping-inter…

 

Joke – The Daily Post-Challenge

An old man and woman were working on landscape clean-up, in a noisy industrial area. Over time they had learned to communicate with gestures. When the man wanted to know where something was, he would gesture with a shrug, and show the appropriate action.

Shrug, digging action = where’s the shovel? She would respond with the digging action and point at a nearby shed. this was working pretty well and they were able to work far from each other, always able to communicate what they needed to.

At one point the man needed the wheelbarrow, and shrugged to the woman, lifting his arms out in front of him, making forward and backward motions.

The woman, quite far from him caught the question and responded, by pointing to her eye, then she grabbed her left breast, followed by pointing at her butt, and then pointed at her crotch.

The man was very confused by this, as she wasn’t usually so sexually explicit, especially on the job. So he made his gestures again, indicating where’s the wheelbarrow?

The woman once again, pointed at her eye, grabbed her left breast, pointed at her butt, and then at her crotch.

The man shrugged, thinking she probably wanted sex or something, and walked over to the old woman to find out what she meant by the cryptic response to, the location of the wheelbarrow.

The woman was quite exasperated by this time, as the man usually figured out what she had indicated.

So in plain English, he asked ” where is the wheelbarrow? ”
Using the same gestures, and speaking at the same time, she replied. ” I said, I, pointing at her eye, left it, grabbing her left breast, behind, pointing at her butt, the bush, pointing at her crotch!