Just What Is Allowed ?

Dear Friend:

In regard to our earlier conversation, I have some personal questions I believe you need to answer. Firstly, just what is allowed, and what is going over the line?

I think the rules are convoluted as we are spending time together. Even though we are not having any kind of physical relationship, I suspect you are worried about what others may think.

I will be totally honest with you, as I am in all of my dealings with others. I have no intention of leading you on. I am not looking for an affair, as I am married, and completely monogamous.

To quell your wondering, I have been married nearly 24 years, and this is my first marriage, as I didn’t decide to take this step until I was in my mid thirties.

I allow my wife to have friends, but that is such a poor way to say that, as allow is not a proper attitude at all. I encourage her to have friends. Male, female, it matters not.

To control someone, so they might not have friends or be able to socialize, is akin to slavery in my book.

If a person is committed to another, there should be no jealousies, or fear of contacts their significant other may have. Trust is a two way street, and if I weren’t able to trust my spouse, how could I expect her to trust me?

Flirtations are just banter, and a way to expose others to a more private side of oneself. They are a way to break the ice, so strangers might feel the person they are talking to is actually human.

Flirting allows people to feel less formal and helps to show a part of oneself, rarely shown. That in turn allows others to feel more comfortable, whereby being more honest about who they really are.

Dear Friend, could we really have any kind of friendship, where we would have to be careful of what we say, or how we word it?

Liking someone is not groping, or ravaging them, it is merely liking them, and no one can fault someone for their likes.

Relationships are just as difficult as a job, and friendships are the same. You work at a friendship, to learn of another, their hopes, desires, their wants and needs, as well as their fears and hatreds.

In my lifetime, I have had enough relationships to understand, couples must have both friends in common, and friends apart. As a married man I know there are things I can’t say to my wife, as that only causes problems.

The same goes for her. To only have the same friends in common, would not allow one to get the gripes off of their chests, as conversations often get repeated and that in turn leads to arguments or fighting.

Dear Friend, we can only be honest and true to those we wish to have in our lives, and my desires of our friendship is to be true to that end.

If in time we are close, and we might find ourselves at a place where we might feel more strongly toward each other, then we should consider what is best for our friendship.

Until then, rest assured I am not out to lead you on, nor to break your heart, and I also know you too feel the same.

Until next time, your Friend….
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Almost Time To Go ( Kleenex Alert )

No, I’m not dying yet….

Hey y’all, just as the title says, it’s almost time to go. I left home in October, and spent 3 weeks away from home, dealing with a family emergency. On the last day of October, I drove back up to the Canadian border. The reason for leaving Reno at that time, was two-fold.

I left home in a hurry, leaving my home, dogs, cat, garden, and winter chores in the care of a neighbor. That was supposed to be for a few days, not weeks. The emergency situation was no longer an emergency, and would allow me to return home, to carry out my commitments.

I had left my wife in Reno, to care for the family, while I was to continue with the usual pre-winter preparations. The list of things to deal with was long, starting with, filling water barrels ( we have no running water ), and harvesting whatever didn’t die off or freeze in the garden, while I was away. Fire wood was / is a necessity, as a heating requirement. ( we have no other form of heat, and propane is too expensive for that )

The property has no amenities. Power at present is from generators, and water was purchased from the city, 15 miles distant ( all down hill, as I live up a mountain ), and has to be hauled in. My wife and I have a 20 foot travel trailer, with a tent-room added on, for more storage. With the past winter quickly approaching, the place needed weatherization, ie, tarps and such fastened down, and tools located and put where they could be found before they were buried under snow.

I took care of most of those things until December 21st. At that time it was assumed ( never assume, as that makes an ass of u and me ) I would go back to Reno, spend Christmas with the family, and pick up Libby ( yes, my wife does have a name! ) and head back home at the beginning of the new year. The best laid plans….

In January it was determined, we would be needed in Reno for the forseeable future. Our grand-daughter would need more care, ( due to TBI ) and only be able to attend school for a couple of hours a day. She is 14 years old, and a freshman in the local high-school. We being unemployed, and semi-retired agreed to take on this task, as we were the only one’s able to break away from our routine.

Now it’s the middle of March, and the family is doing better. They will never get back to a regular home-life or routine, as long as we are present. We talked about these things the other day, and decided we would head back home at the end of March. Our grand-daughter is faring better, although she still will only be able to attend school for two hours daily. Her parents are back at work, and her brother is back at his usual routine.

I started this blog for too many reasons to tell. There is a whole post just on that singular subject, and I’m sure I could be my usual long-winded-self, and explain in ten thousand words, the whys of everything. Having stated that, I will be hard pressed to keep posting at the speed or rate, with which I have been up to now. I have no internet at home as of yet, and funds for some of the luxuries most take for granted, are truly non-existent.

As an old man, on SSI, I receive $733 per month. My mortgage is just over $300, and a phone eats $50 more. That leaves me with just about half of my monthly money to cover all of the rest of living. I am currently buying a truck, for $50 a month as well. The truck is for all of the hauling, as the 1995 Geo Metro, wasn’t designed for the work I’ve made it do over the last couple of years.

When I posted 350,000 article ideas I wasn’t kidding. There is a post on every point I have just made, and then the posts that could follow. ( sub-titles ) I am presently trying to pre-write a pile ( more than two, and less than a mountain ) of articles to post on a regular basis. I had said previously, I only went to town every two weeks. That was to help keep fuel costs, automobile repair expenses and such, to a minimum.

So with that being stated, I will apologise ahead of time, if I drop off of the face of the planet, or am unable to create decent, or enough content to keep all of my followers satiated. I am feeling as though I will be letting you all down, and am having certain regrets for starting this. I love having a following, and enjoy the comradery, fellowship, and love of the community I have been able to partake in.

Even now, my eyes are tearing up. I love you all, y’all, and am sorry if I end up letting any of you down. I’ve come to depend on this blog. I am addicted to blogging, and sharing all of the lives, I have had the privilege of being a part of.

Thank you for allowing me into your lives. Thank you for your kindness, and support when things were tough. Thank you for just being, and allowing me to be, also. I will continue to post for as long as I am able, and probably will have to make special trips to town, where the internet is more available, just so I don’t lose my extended family.

I ask y’all to please be forgiving, and patient while I readjust living arrangements, and obviously blogging practices. If you feel the need, or desire to continue communications with me, I have an email address and a phone. I won’t be able to respond to comments daily, or hourly as I have been, but I will make a special effort for all of you. Thank you and I love you too, also, as well! Squatch

rgcorros@gmail.com                       phone#    208-597-2502 ( my old Idaho number )